Art student apologizes to parents for ‘reacting badly’ after posting video of their lecture, World News
There has always been a stigma surrounding pursuing a career in the arts versus that of the science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) industry, especially in Asian and more conservative households. .
A Vietnamese student in the United States recently shared a TikTok video of her parents lecturing her on her career path while she had dinner.
The video, posted on Monday (April 11) with the caption “live laugh love”, has since garnered over 12 million views.
In the clip, titled “Point of View: You’re Trying For Dinner But You’re Major Art In An Asian Household,” TikToker @kaitlynnbui is seen crying during dinner as her mom berates her.
Kaitlynn’s mother can be heard asking how she plans to support herself after graduation, to which Kaitlynn jokingly replies, “I’m going to find a rich husband.”
His mother then replies: “You are small and small”, “You can do nothing” and “You have nothing compared to others”.
Kaitlynn, still in tears, responds by telling her parents to leave her alone and that she would “work it out”.
However, his mother goes on to tell him that “it’s very difficult to survive with this career”. She later adds, “Sit down and think about it. Wake up, stop dreaming, live with reality,” which makes Kaitlynn’s eyes roll.
Kaitlynn’s deeply relatable video has sparked an outpouring of love and support, with many netizens sharing similar experiences with their own parents. They also encouraged her to pursue her dreams.
One TikToker said, “It hurt to hear. Same, girl. Trust me, stick to your dream! You owe them nothing and everything to you!”
However, there were also those who felt empathy towards Kaitlynn’s parents.
One user commented, “This is a projection. They probably didn’t have as many choices in their careers and refuse to recognize the variety of modern careers now.”
Another added: “Their only intention is for us to be well off so we don’t wrestle but man their execution is terrible to the point we never feel good enough for them.”
On Wednesday, April 13, Kaitlynn posted a follow-up video that shows her apologizing to her parents for “doing wrong” and reacting badly.
She wrote in the caption, “I’m graduating next month but I still don’t know what the future holds so when my parents asked me the question I’ve been asking myself over and over again I wonder. got defensive and reacted badly I love my mom and dad.
i’m graduating next month but i still don’t know what the future holds for me, so when my parents asked me the question that i’ve been asking myself over and over, i got defensive and reacted poorly. i love my mom and dad❤️
In the video which has been viewed over 440,000 times, Kaitlynn’s mother can be heard explaining, “When we ask you, we want you to tell us your plans so we can see if we can help you or not. “
His mother says, “From the beginning, I told you that it was very difficult to find a job, but if you want it, we will support you anyway.”
She also points out how she and Kaitlynn’s father had even bought Kaitlynn the new gear she wanted.
She then clarified that while she doesn’t need Kaitlynn to have “big social influence or make a lot of money,” Kaitlynn still needs to be able to support herself and her family.
“Do you understand? It’s not that I don’t believe in you,” her mother adds.